So, 2015 has been here for about a month and a half now… how’s it been treating you? Life is champagne and fireworks everyday, right?
Better yet, how have you been treating 2015?
I’ve reached a point in my post-grad “growing-up” stage where I am playing a waiting game, fingers-crossed, with a few companies and am feeling a
tad powerless. With a bit more extra time than usual for thinking, I have been realizing there are things I haven’t done that I *told myself* I would do in 2015 and feel proud about by now.
Looking for inspiration and guidance for fulfilling my *new year* still & always, a few gems have stood out to me that are absolutely your time reading.
What to look for in this article:
- How to not give a fuck, properly.
- Why competition is for sissies
- Set your mind right
How to not give a fuck, properly.
“What we don’t realize is that there is a fine art of non-fuck-giving. People aren’t just born not giving a fuck. In fact, we’re born giving way too many fucks. Ever watch a kid cry his eyes out because his hat is the wrong shade of blue? Exactly. Fuck that kid.”
“When we give too many fucks, when we choose to give a fuck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that’s when life fucks us.”
Remember, “There’s absolutely nothing admirable or confident about indifference. People who are indifferent are lame and scared.”
As we go on in this life, “we become more selective about the fucks we’re willing to give. This is something called ‘maturity’… And in a strange way, this is liberating. We no longer need to give a fuck about everything. Life is just what it is. We accept it, warts and all.”
“…say “Fuck it,” not to everything in life, but rather they say “Fuck it” to everything unimportant in life…”
“Reserve your fucks for what truly fucking matters. Friends. Family. Purpose. Burritos.”
GO read more with Mark fucking Manson here
Why competition is for sissies
“People make the mistake of getting too caught up in competing with the wrong players.” “As a business owner, you should be striving to dominate your industry instead of merely keeping up with your competitors” (or coworkers)
“Question why others in your field are doing what they’re doing and brainstorm ways to do things better…It’s also worth asking yourself, what are some things that people in my industry aren’t doing and why?”
“…Instead of looking at what others are doing on Instagram and Pinterest, begin brainstorming your own ideas and come up with original concepts that are distinctly you. Play to your own strengths instead of attempting to imitate the strengths of others. – If you’re coming up with creative ideas, you won’t have any competition because no one will be doing quite what you do.”
“You’re more likely to encourage and support others when you eliminate the comparison and competition mentality.”
Set your mind right
“The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value. How does this happen? How can a simple belief have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life?”
“There’s a… mindset in which these [fixed character] traits are not simply a hand you’re dealt and have to live with, always trying to convince yourself and others that you have a royal flush when you’re secretly worried it’s a pair of tens.”
“In a growth mindset, a person’s true potential is unknown (and unknowable); that it’s impossible to foresee what can be accomplished with years of passion, toil, and training.”
Gather a more full understanding with Carol Dweck here
and then peruse every single one of Wanderlust’s infinitely important 29 Things To Remember In The New Year
and then go get after 2015! It’s never too late to start working on what you want.